The ReformedRev's Suggestions For Dealing With Conflict (Things to Remember)

• The cause of conflict is usually internal, not external (and so is God's solution).
• The crisis at hand is usually not the problem but symptomatic of a deeper issue.
• Resolution requires seeing the underlying structures of conflict and learning new ways to trust God through the process of seeking consensus.
• Work to keep communication open and civil at all times.
• Choose your opening actions and words carefully.
• Don't fall into the trap of blaming others.
• Think in whole, not in parts.
• Focus on the problem not just the people who disagree with you.
• Seek God's guidance at the onset of the conflict, not after feelings have been hurt.
• Remember, a leader does not know all the answers, nor is he or she the solution (God does and is).